I get asked a lot how I balance a toddler with an aging parent. I’ve had to learn from past mistakes that I cannot do it all. So I’m now more realistic about what I can do and know my limitations. ⠀
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I did a LOT of crying. Frustrated I didn’t understand how this happened, confused at all the jargon thrown at me from specialist, insurance providers and case workers, mad that my only parent was declining in front of my eyes, jealous of people who had healthy parents. Then I felt guilty, “how did I not catch this earlier?” I mean, she’s my mom… but use that energy to get the answers and help that you need. ⠀
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I do want to point out that I have a younger brother who has been a wonderful help during this journey. Since I’m physically located closer to my mother, it was more logical for me to be her POA. I also have in-laws that go and visit my mother too. Sometimes they take her food, buy her little things that make her smile, or just stop and visit! All which bring her joy!⠀
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I keep file folders because I have annual requests to provide information on behalf of my mom. Once I went to the bank to request account information (since I need to provide it for her insurance). I told the banker what I needed and why I needed it. I spent the next 15 minutes with her learning about how my mom’s insurance worked and what other requests I would soon get. You are NOT alone! There are others who have sick parents that can help you along the way. I run into these “working daughters” and all they want to do is help me along the way so that I can learn from their mistakes.
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